Cyber Savy Parenting

Cyber Savvy Parenting

eyedactic is the new parental involvement software, helping parents replace the role of being “the police” to being “the consultant.” The Cyber Savvy Parent Workshop begins with a member of the eyeDactic team who instructs parents on how to use eyeDactic to collect and monitor data from all your tween/teen’s devices.

This information can open up communication and provide an opportunity for parents to see what intrigues and interests their tween may have as tweens tend to not share their internet exploration with a parent. Parents can also begin to better understand and support better decision making when it comes to the use of the social media and texting. learn more about how to deal with kids by clicking here

Following this, Ms. Clark teaches 3 parenting strategies to help ease communication, support positive cyber-savvy choices and guide your tween/teen to making more responsible use of technology.

What is eyeDactic?

eyeDactic is software that collects data off of your tween/teen’s smartphone, tablet, or computer and then organizes the data into charts and graphs so that you can tell what apps and/or websites your tween/teen is using and for how long. eyeDactic also features location services so that you can know exactly where your tween/teen is and what they are doing. With it’s compatibility with all types of phones and browers and it’s ability to run silently in the background, eyeDactic truly is the up and coming parental software that focuses on relationships rather that blocking!

eyeDactic Features:

  • App monitoring
  • Computer monitoring
  • Location tracking
  • Alerts and Reports
  • Online community forum

Q. What is unique about eyedactic software?

A. eyeDactic is not parental or blocking software.  Parental control software is appropriate for small children but not tweens/teens.

Q. Is parental control software effective?

A. There is no parental control software that is 100% effective. Or even close. Despite its name … you cannot control your son or daughter. Given billions of web sites, thousands of applications and 24×7 on line access … the belief that you can control or protect your teenager is naïve. A computer literate tween/teen bent on making bad on-line decisions knows all too well how to get around device locks, blocking filters, key stroke capturing, and proprietary browsers. Without any real information to the contrary, parents relying on the marketing claims of parental control software lull themselves into complacency.

Q. Will the school’s web filtering software keep my son/daughter safe?

A. Most schools provide some form of web filtering or monitoring software. But even the best schools find it impossible to safe guard your child from porn, hate groups, illegal drug advocacy groups, pedophiles, matchmaking sites, cheating, escort services etc.

School log files that collect student browsing activity are unwieldy and seldom looked at, while Internet opportunities are increasingly abundant and ever changing. Even if you Internet services provider is willing to help in blocking these types of sites, there are VPS available which can easily override your blocking rules, its always best to talk to your kids about the disadvantages of these types of site.

We have seen many parents hesitate to talk with there kids about these topics and the problems begins from here, kids will get this information from an unreliable source which can spoil your child, its always better to talk with your kids about these topics, take them into your confidence and then talk to them.

Cyber Savvy Parenting

Q. How is eyeDactic more effective for tween/teens than parental control or blocking software?

A. eyeDactic opens up discussions about good decision making between parent and tween/teen. When parents use blocking software, teens feel controlled and rebel against this control by sneaking, lying or hiding information. Parental control software turns the parent into the family policeman.

When parents put themselves in the position of policing, it takes the responsibility of good decision making away from the tween/teen and puts the pressure on the parent to be the enforcer of good decision making. Parents find it challenging to talk with their teens as the teen sees them as “police.” With eyeDactic, parents receive permission to observe what their tween/teen is doing. Instead of policing, they become the consultant and take on the role of advisor. When the tween makes poor use of time or visits a questionable URL, the door is open for the parent to have a conversation to help the teen make a better decision the next time.

Q. How does eyeDactic software do that?

A. The eyeDactic software application is downloaded and installed on the tween/teen mobile device and/or family computer. The eyeDactic software gathers computer usage off of the tween/teen device and sends the data to the family’s cloud server. The family data is analyzed by the computer and summarized into easy-to-read charts and graphs for the parent and teenager to view together.

Q.  How do I get my teen/tween to agree to run eyeDactic on their mobile device (or computer)?

A.  There needs to be a family understanding. The more parents can observe their tween/teen making good decisions, the more freedom and privileges will be granted. This is what teenagers REALLY want. More than anything else in life teenagers want freedom, privileges, and responsibility to decide for themselves. Parents want that, too. Parents can help expedite this by becoming part of the process and by getting visibility into their teenager’s online digital life. The sooner a teenager moves toward becoming an adult by making responsible choices, the better for all.  Tweens/teens who agree to run eyeDactic accelerate the process of good decision making and give parents the opportunity to become the “Consultant” instead of the “Police”.

Q.  What if my teen/tween protests and says, “Why don’t you just trust me?”

A.  The short answer is, “Trust is not granted, it is earned.”  The more a tween/teen demonstrates responsible choices and behavior, the more a parent grows in trust and grants freedoms and responsibility. If you think about it, that is how the real world works too!  This dynamic exists between teacher-student, employer-employee, DMV-driver, coach-player, etc.

Q.  What stops a tween/teen from removing eyeDactic from their mobile device?

A.  Nothing. eyeDactic monitoring software can be removed at any time. But … the tween/teen’s action of disabling or removing eyeDactic gets reported to the family cloud server and parents receive an email notifying them that eyeDactic has been disabled. For parents, this will cause concern as well as an opportunity for talking about why this happened and the ability to learn if anything unsafe or questionable has occurred. Consequently, tween/teens learn to understand that temporarily disabling the eyeDactic software (for any reason) does not help build that needed trust.

Q.  How does eyeDactic categorize applications and web sites?

A.  eyedactic uses crowd sourcing. When a parent sees an uncategorized URL or application, they have the opportunity to tag it with information. That information is made (anonymously) available to other parents. The collective efforts of all parents benefit each parent.

Q.  How do you insure that my tween’s data goes to my server for my eyes only?

A.  Every version of eyeDactic that gets downloaded onto an iPad (or mobile device / computer) has a unique serial number. When you type that serial number into your eyeDactic account, only you can see the data coming from that device.